- Set aside 10 minutes to let yourself worry in the middle of every day (not when you first wake up or before you go to bed).
- Write down everything you're worried about, from not having enough money in your 401(k) to your neighbor not liking you.
- Prioritize your worries according to what you can solve today, what you can solve this week or month, and what you can't change at all.
- Come up with an action plan for the things that you can change. This switches your focus from ruminating to doing, so you feel more in control.
- Cross off and then let go of the things that you can't change.
- If you wake up in the morning and start worrying, stop yourself until it's your worry time. This technique trains you to postpone worrying so you don't get caught up in circular thinking and helps to minimize stress and tension.
Pain Trigger #4: Skimping on Sleep
You've got e-mails to answer, closets to clean, and lunches to pack. But if you're putting sleep at the bottom of your to-do list, you're going to suffer. "In the pre-Internet days, Americans slept 9 hours a night. Today we average less than 6 1/2 hours," says Dr. Teitelbaum. "Your body makes human growth hormone during sleep, which is needed for tissue repair to ease pain." Moreover, people with chronic insomnia have nearly three times the risk of chronic pain, according to the journal Sleep.
Avoid Aches: Hypnotize Yourself
Falling asleep when you're aching can seem like mission impossible, but self-hypnosis techniques have been shown to both decrease pain and improve sleep quality. Hypnosis is simply becoming absorbed in a single object (like a candle's flame), image (think: being on a beach), or idea (such as a word or phrase). It works because when you focus your attention on something absorbing, the mind becomes more calm and open to suggestions. "Hypnosis lessens overall brain activity—including in the areas linked to feelings of anxiety—so you feel more relaxed," says Mark P. Jensen, PhD, vice chair for research in the Department of Rehabilitation Medicine at the University of Washington, and author of Hypnosis for Chronic Pain Management: Patient Workbook (Oxford University Press).
To fall asleep faster, Dr. Jensen recommends trying this simple 3-2-1 technique. First, listen for three things (such as the hum of your air conditioner or your partner's breathing). Next, see three things (think about images of your favorite place or a big blue sky). After that, feel three things (maybe soft sheets against your skin, a cool breeze from an open window). Repeat by listening, seeing, and feeling two things, and then go down to one thing each. It's okay to lose count as you begin to drift off—just start over and keep repeating until you're fully asleep.
Pain Trigger #5: Your Work Area
You might not think that simply sitting at your desk can up your pain risk since it doesn't feel like you're doing anything physically strenuous, but everything from your posture to the way your work area is set up could potentially cause injury. Carrying your shoulders up around your ears from being stressed tightens your shoulder and neck muscles to trigger aches. Resting your wrists on your keyboard without proper support can lead to sharp, shooting pains in your wrist and hands known as carpal tunnel syndrome. Sitting in a chair with no back support or that doesn't allow your feet to touch the floor can put added strain on your spine.
Avoid Aches: Makeover Your Space
Protecting yourself from numbness, stiffness, and cramping is as easy as making a few small adjustments to your desk.
- First, stick a blue dot on your computer monitor and look at it every so often to remind yourself to relax your shoulders if you're the type to raise them up toward your ears when stressed.
- Next, check how you sit at your computer. The top of your monitor should be at or slightly below eye level so you're not straining your neck to look up.
- Your wrists and elbows should be supported and your keyboard should be about arm's length away from your body when your elbows are bent.
- Your knees should be bent at a 90-degree angle. If your feet don't touch the floor, get a stool to rest your feet.
Pain Trigger #6: Loneliness
You know that old Streisand song that says people who need people are the luckiest people in the world? Well, denying those needs can lead to physical pain. "Experiencing chronic pain can be a very isolating experience," says Dr. Bertagnolli. "We're social creatures, but pain can make you withdraw from others around you and may lead to feelings of depression—which has been linked to increased pain."
Avoid Aches: Nurture Your Connections
"People who have good social support, and use it well, manage their pain better," says Dr. Sonty. "It's essential to get out and do as much as you can so you don't become isolated." Rather than, say, skip a friend's party altogether because you don't think you can handle sitting for 5 hours, make it a point to go and stay for only an hour. Also, support groups can remind you that you're not alone and give you advice on how to better manage pain. Visit the American Chronic Pain Association to find one near you.
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